Better together

One last Berry-influenced thought and i'll be done. A good marriage means working together, both members contributing toward the home, he says. And it's true, i always am most enjoying marriage when we're working on a project together, or talking about individual jobs that still contribute toward our home, or even just both laughing (or pulling our hair out) over our kids. And i think that it's right to want - and even need - that. There's always outside pressure, imo, to be able to just deal with things on your own. Lonely or bored? Find a hobby to do on your own and just be happy. Of course I need to fight my own tendency for selfishness. But thinking about it, in a marriage relationship, it doesn't make you codependent to want to always spend time doing something with the other person, whether it's making dinner or cleaning out the basement or planting (or planning) a garden. And when it seems like all our time is consumed by other things, it's hard. And also probably time to get creative. 

[Not that i am one to practice what I preach - Berry had me psyched about the joy of doing our work well, until I actually thought about spending all day with two sweet but busy little hooligans. Then it turned to just panic and lots of prayers, which at least have been answered - everyone here is still alive and well...]